Body Positivity!



Wearing a bikini is not for everyone.  Don’t feel bad because you aren’t comfortable wearing one.  Some of us are really proud of ourselves for being able to wear one and sometimes we might forget that not everyone is in the same place we are.  You are still doing great and are still brave and amazing with or without a fatkini.  



Fat Dancer: Campaigning For Body Positivity


like seriously if you think it’s okay to make fun of people, or shame them, because they aren’t “healthy” you are absolutely disgusting

and if you think people aren’t allowed to feel good about themselves unless they’re healthy, you are a really awful person


things “body positivity” movements should address besides weight/fat:

  • (dis)ability
  • features associated with non-whiteness
  • hair type
  • lots of body hair / no body hair / little body hair / hair in all places / losing hair
  • acne
  • skin conditions
  • scars
  • stretch marks
  • skin…
Apr 7

I am allowed to exist.


No matter my size, no matter my health. I am allowed to exist and I should be able to do so without persecution.

Apr 6

the fact that “love your body” rhetoric shifts the responsibility for body acceptance over to the individual, and away from communities, institutions, and power, is also problematic. individuals who do not love their bodies, who find their bodies difficult to love, are seen as being part of the problem. the underlying assumption is that if we all loved our bodies just as they are, our fat-shaming, beauty-policing culture would be different. if we don’t love our bodies, we are, in effect, perpetuating normative (read: impossible) beauty standards. if we don’t love our individual bodies, we are at fault for collectively continuing the oppressive and misogynistic culture. if you don’t love your body, you’re not trying hard enough to love it. in this framework, your body is still the paramount focus, and one way or another, you’re failing. it’s too close to the usual body-shaming, self-policing crap, albeit with a few quasi-feminist twists, for comfort.


on “loving your body” (via silkchemise)

Pretty sure I’ve reblogged this before, but the sentiment still rings true. White supremacy makes me feel ugly as shit 99% of the time, and in the moments where I express my feelings of ugliness to feminist friends I am met with “why don’t you love yourself better?” “Omg you need a lots of self care” (which i dont always have the luxury of time/money for) and the worst of them, “Honey I think something’s really wrong with you, you need professional help :(“

Man, fuck that shit. The only “help” I need is good friends who want to help tear down the system with me. More often then not, however, my self-esteem dips and emotional responses to systemic oppressions usually result in my being told I’m not doing a good enough job of loving myself, instead of recognizing that we live in a world that makes it virtually impossible for marginalized (fat, brown, differently abled) folks to love our bodies in the first place.

(via tothedirigible)


(via iamoffendedbecause)

Apr 6

I fully support your message but I disagree with your comment about "not-chronically-ill" being a standard of western beauty. I'm not saying any of those those standards are correct, but there are many types of chronicle illnesses that don't affect appearance at all. I feel that saying it doesn't fit a standard of beauty that is based on physical appearance isn't always accurate because often non-visible aspects of people do not make them considered less conventionally attractive looking.


Chronic illnesses can affect appearances. Many chronic illnesses make it impossible to do heavy or light exercise, bathe regularly, walk unassisted, eat regularly, sleep enough, move comfortably without dislocating joints, or spend time and energy on “beauty regimes” that are often necessary to achieve what society says a person should look like.

And non-visible aspects of people, such as illnesses, are often still heavily stigmatized in terms of what bodies should be able to do. 

Apr 6

How come you only post pictures of "non-stereotypically pretty" people? If this is for body positivity, how come there are only pictures of chubbier girls and no pictures of thinner girls, athletic girls, or other body types?


most of the pictures on here are photosets of more than one body type?

and even if there are a few more pictures of fat people its because visibility, body shaming doesn’t affect everyone equally and “stereotypically pretty” people get a lot of visibility and a lot of pictures posted of them because theyre stereotypically pretty??

so this is here to try and break down those standards and give visibility and other praises to people who don’t fit into that narrow mold because that narrow version of stereotypical attractiveness is super shitty and there needs to be a space for people to internalize that all bodies are inherently valid and good?

also not everyone thats been on this blog is a woman jfc stop assuming gender

Apr 5

The last question asked "how do I become more body positive?" But if they and other people on here hate their bodies why don't they do something to fix it like work out or change their diet? Not to be rude or mean I'm just wondering


i’m going to attach my name to this one b/c i don’t want the other mod to catch shit for this, this is amy answering

i find it inherently rude to say that anyone’s body needs to be “fixed”

like its okay to be fat and its okay to be skinny and its okay to be in between. ALSO theres a lot more to this that i’ll address at the end, people can hate their bodies for more than just that reason. the standards of western beauty are white, thin, cisgender, clear skin, able-bodied, not-chronically ill. these are all things that are pushed and pushed and pushed on us to make sure that people that don’t meet any or all of those don’t get to love our bodies. so first of all the problem goes much deeper than that

there are people who work out and eat healthy and are still fat and there are people who don’t work out and don’t eat healthy and are still skinny and there is literally everything in between and there are people who CANT do one of those two things and can be fat or skinny or anything in between and they deserve respect and to love their bodies too

ALSO people have a right to exist in their bodies. they have a right to exist and love and enjoy their bodies regardless of what they look like because the way that we come to think that some bodies or looks are wrong or need to be “fixed” by “diet changes or working out” is because OTHER people say “you don’t get to enjoy your body as it is because other people don’t like it” and thats such bullshit????????? its the biggest load of bullshit there ever was because it is literally people saying “this is not my body but instead of letting you enjoy your stay in yours, i’m going to try and make you feel unhappy and inadequate” and like wow asshole

even if someone is like 300 lbs and doesnt exercise and doesn’t eat a shitton of vegetables, it doesnt mean that they don’t deserve respect and to love their bodies because theyre treating their body the way that they want to treat it and OTHER PEOPLE don’t get to vocalize their opinion about that person’s habits. if someone has an eating disorder and is very very thing and doesn’t eat and exercises a lot, obviously theyre not treating their body the best they can but they still deserve to feel comfortable and you gotta think about the societal pressures that got them to that point [this isnt to say that people shouldn’t treat their bodies well and im not at all saying eating disorders are okay, but thats a separate issue from other people screaming that a person’s body is inherently wrong]

i’m not saying that people shouldn’t eat a balanced diet and exercise and treat their bodies well, BUT BUT BUT that looks like incredibly different things on different people. society keeps on trying to shove unsubstantiated shit at us that says you can tell if someone is healthy or unhealthy based on the way that they look, which is wrong. 

again, healthiness is not a factor in if someone deserves to feel good in their body because also for a lot of people with chronic illnesses or disabilities, healthy isnt an option and never was. there are people whose bodies will always be read as wrong no matter how big or small they are, and they deserve to feel comfortable in their bodies too. there are all sorts of ways that bodies are shit on. if you’re not thin if youre not able bodied, if youre not well all the time, if you’re not white, if your skin isnt perfect, etc

all of these totally bullshit things that people do not want to fix, do not need to fix, or can’t fix and are totally great and wonderful things about a person that all the negative stigma is created and perpetuated by a fatphobic, ableist, racist, cissexist, misogyist society that thinks we NEED to live up to their ideals and make us hate our perfectly good, wonderful bodies for literally no reason. 

Apr 5

Best tips on being body positive?



I love this topic <3

1. Look at yourself naked. REALLY get in there and look. I know it’s hard for a lot of people to really see themselves, but the more you force yourself to look, the less dramatic you are about how your tummy rolls, or how your skin stretches. Once you get used to yourself naked - dance. Dance to Beyonce, Lady Gaga, Marilyn Manson, Backstreet Boys, Dixie Chicks, etc. Make yourself laugh. 

2. Wear what you want to wear. If you wear all black, baggy clothes and band tshirts, but have an underground obsession with lolita clothes, mix it up! Start out with just wearing that cute frilly thing around your house until you get comfortable to wear it in public. Let yourself out of your box

3. Dont be afraid of being unattractive. This one is a major truth for me. If you dont feel like getting dolled up every stinkin day, then dont be afraid to throw on those sweats, throw up the hair in a bun and go to target to buy fresh panties. Makeup and dresses can make you feel amazing, but sweats and clear skin can give you a certain freedom. This is the step that I struggle with the most. 

4. Surround yourself with body positive people and blogs. They will help you the most. You can’t keep yourself in a closed bubble because your thoughts will get the best of you. Post selfies, explain your favorite outfit, envy other peoples outfits, share your tales of woe, give advice to other people. Having a community makes you realize that everyone, even if you think their body is perfect, has insecurities. You are not alone.

5. Its okay to feel bad about your body. Dont beat yourself up about having hateful days. You are not back at square one. Be progressive about your low-self-esteem. Take one thousand selfies and only post 2. Lady around the house and spread all of your makeup around you. Spend the day slathering as much on your face as humanly possible. Lay on the couch and watch reruns of Friends until you cry. Make a pillow fort. Buy a whole cheesecake and eat it until you feel like you are gunna puke. But remember that these days will come and go. 

I could think of a million more, but these are the most important.